Inflated Sense of Self-Importance with Narcissism
by: Todd Doyle, International Author of Healing the Shattered: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
An inflated sense of self-importance is a hallmark characteristic of narcissistic individuals, and it can have serious and long-lasting effects on the victim in the context of narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic individuals tend to have an exaggerated sense of their own worth, importance, and abilities, and they may demand special treatment or expect to be recognized as superior to others.
In the context of narcissistic abuse, the inflated sense of self-importance can be especially harmful, as it allows the abuser to manipulate and exploit the victim without regard for their feelings or well-being. The victim may feel disregarded, unheard, and invisible, and they may struggle to get their needs met or to feel emotionally connected to the abuser.
Some common ways in which an inflated sense of self-importance can manifest in the context of narcissistic abuse include:
Demanding special treatment: The abuser may demand special treatment or privileges, expecting to be treated differently than others and to be exempt from normal rules and expectations. The victim may feel like they are not as important or deserving as the abuser, and they may struggle to get their needs met or to feel valued in the relationship.
Belittling or undermining others: The abuser may belittle or undermine others in order to make themselves feel superior, and they may try to control or dominate those around them. The victim may feel like they are not good enough or that they are constantly being compared unfavorably to the abuser.
Lack of empathy or understanding: The abuser may lack empathy or understanding for the feelings and experiences of others, as they are more focused on their own needs and desires. The victim may feel like they are not truly seen or understood by the abuser, and they may struggle to feel emotionally connected to them.
Self-aggrandizement: The abuser may exaggerate their own accomplishments, abilities, or worth in order to make themselves feel superior to others. The victim may feel like they are constantly being compared unfavorably to the abuser, and they may struggle to feel confident or valued in the relationship.
The effects of an inflated sense of self-importance can be serious and long-lasting, including:
Low self-esteem and self-worth
Difficulty trusting your own perceptions and thoughts
Difficulty setting boundaries or asserting yourself
A constant need for approval and validation
Feeling isolated or disconnected from others
Difficulty making decisions
Depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues
If you suspect that you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse, it is important to seek help and support. It is important to recognize that the abuse is not your fault and that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. It is also important to seek help from a trusted friend or family member, a mental health professional, or a domestic violence resource center.