Self-doubt with Narcissistic Abuse
by: Todd Doyle, International Author of Healing the Shattered: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
Self-doubt is a common experience among individuals who have survived narcissistic abuse and have formed a trauma bond with their abuser. A trauma bond is an emotional attachment that is formed as a result of experiencing repeated trauma or abuse, often in the context of an intimate relationship. It can create a sense of dependence on the abuser and make it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship, despite experiencing abuse.
A narcissist has an uncanny ability to create self-doubt inside the minds of their victims. They use gaslighting tactics, triangulation, and many other forms of both emotional and psychological control tactics to gain control of their victims through self-doubt. They make their victims question their own perceived reality. They create this by creating self-doubt inside the minds of their targets.
Narcissistic individuals often use manipulation, exploitation, and control in their relationships to get their needs met and maintain a sense of power and control. This can leave their victims feeling confused, isolated, and unsure of their own worth. The psychological manipulation and abuse that is often perpetrated by narcissistic individuals can erode an individual’s sense of self-worth and self-esteem, leading to feelings of self-doubt and insecurity.
The trauma bond that is often formed in narcissistic abuse relationships can further exacerbate these feelings of self-doubt. The abuser may use manipulation and coercion to maintain control over the victim, making it difficult for the victim to trust their own perceptions and feelings. As a result, the victim may feel uncertain about their own worth and value, and may doubt their ability to make decisions and take action on their own.
It is important to recognize that self-doubt is a common response to narcissistic abuse and a trauma bond, and it is not a reflection of the victim’s worth or value. Seeking support from friends, family, a therapist, or a support group can be helpful in navigating these feelings and rebuilding a sense of self-worth and self-esteem. Remember, you are not alone and there is help available.