What is Narcissistic Abuse ?

What is Narcissistic Abuse
by: Todd Doyle, International Author of Healing the Shattered: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional abuse that is perpetrated by individuals with narcissistic personality traits. These individuals are characterized by their inflated sense of self-importance, lack of empathy, and tendency to manipulate and exploit others for their own gain. Narcissistic abuse can take many forms, including verbal abuse, emotional manipulation, and psychological manipulation. It is often insidious, with the abuser gradually chipping away at the victim’s sense of self-worth and self-esteem over time.

One common tactic used by narcissistic abusers is gaslighting, which involves manipulating the victim’s reality through lies, deception, and manipulation. This can make it difficult for the victim to trust their own perceptions and can lead to feelings of confusion and self-doubt. Narcissistic abusers may also use tactics such as triangulation, in which they sow seeds of doubt and mistrust among the victim’s friends and family members, or blame shifting, in which they deflect responsibility for their own harmful behavior onto the victim.

Victims of narcissistic abuse often experience a range of negative emotions, including fear, anxiety, depression, and self-doubt. They may also struggle with feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and a lack of self-confidence. These negative emotions can be compounded by the abuser’s constant criticism and manipulation, leading to a cycle of self-blame and self-doubt.

It is important to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse and to seek help if you or someone you know is experiencing it. Some common signs of narcissistic abuse include:

A sense of inadequacy or worthlessness
Difficulty trusting your own perceptions and thoughts
A lack of self-confidence and self-esteem
Difficulty setting boundaries or asserting yourself
A constant need for approval and validation
Feeling isolated or disconnected from others
Difficulty making decisions

A sense of being controlled or manipulated
If you suspect that you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse, it is important to seek support from a trusted friend or family member, a mental health professional, or a domestic violence resource center. It is also important to develop a safety plan to protect yourself and to consider seeking legal recourse if necessary.

It is important to remember that narcissistic abuse is not your fault and that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Recovery from narcissistic abuse can be a difficult process, but it is possible with the right support and resources. It may be helpful to seek therapy to process your experiences and to work on rebuilding your self-worth and self-esteem. It is also important to surround yourself with supportive and understanding people who can help you heal and move forward.

Self-help books are a great way to learn strategies to cope from narcissistic abuse.  Todd Doyle authored Healing the Shattered: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse to help other survivors of narcissistic abuse have the tools he’s used to help heal.  Self-help books are a great way for survivors to learn tips and steps to take on their own healing journey.

If you are the victim of narcissistic abuse, it is important to remember that you are not alone and that there is help available. Do not hesitate to reach out for support and to take steps to protect yourself and your well-being. With the right resources and support, you can recover from narcissistic abuse and move forward towards a healthy and fulfilling life.