Protecting Pets When Planning to Leave an Abusive Relationship

Concern for a pet’s safety is one of the most common, and most understandable, reasons people delay leaving an abusive relationship. Research cited by the National Domestic Violence Hotline suggests that as many as 65 percent of survivors stay longer than they otherwise would out of worry about what would happen to their pets, and for good reason: nearly half feared the abusive partner would harm or kill the animal, and over a third said threats against pets had already happened.

If You’re Still in the Home

Where possible, avoid leaving pets alone with an abusive partner. Establishing proof of ownership, vaccination and licensing records in your name specifically, can also matter later, including for any protective order that addresses the pet.

Planning for Where They’ll Go

Start by asking friends, family, or your veterinarian about temporary care if you need it. If that’s not available, your local domestic violence shelter or animal shelter may know about pet-specific safe-haven programs; a relatively small number of shelters nationally are pet-friendly or partner with foster programs built specifically for this situation, so it’s worth asking directly rather than assuming none exist nearby.

If You’re Pursuing a Protective Order

Some states allow pets to be explicitly named and protected within a protective order. Ask your advocate or lawyer whether that’s available where you live, especially if there have already been threats or harm involving the animal.

If and When You Leave

If it’s safe to plan ahead, bringing extra food, medications, copies of medical and vaccination records, and your vet’s contact information can make a sudden departure much less chaotic for both of you.

Where to Get Help

A domestic violence advocate can help you think through pet safety as part of a broader plan, including local resources that may not be widely advertised. Start with the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233, or text START to 88788), or see Safety Planning in an Abusive Relationship: Where to Begin.